Updated September 28, 2026 · FlingCue Editorial Team
BDSM Singles vs POPpen.de
What sets them apart
| Compare |  BDSM Singles |  POPpen.de |
|---|---|---|
| What is free | Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day | Profiles, messages, chat and forum are free |
| Profile verification | Phone number and optional photo verification badge | Free authenticity check for contact |
| Audience focus | BDSM singles: subs, doms, switchers, couples | Adults 18+; singles and couples |
| Plans | 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, trial | Free, Premium, VIP, Commercial |
| Members | Hundreds of local members (2026-09-26) | Over 4 million members (2026 claim) |
| Renewal and cancelling | Auto-renew; cancel in settings, no refund | 14-day withdrawal; auto-renews to term end |
| Privacy and data | Data held in US and UK; never sold to third parties | Data processed outside the EEA (Hong Kong) |
| Categories | Fetish, LGBTQ, Gay, Lesbian | Casual, Discreet, Mature, Fetish, Swinger, Trans |
| Credit system | Not confirmed | Points buy extras, no cash payout |
| App store rating | Not confirmed | Google Play 3.8/5, 34,700 reviews, 2026-09-26 |
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Key differences
- Founded is lower at POPpen.de: 2004 vs 2006.
- BDSM Singles is available in 101 more countries.
- Categories: only BDSM Singles offers LGBTQ, Gay, Lesbian.
- Categories: only POPpen.de offers Casual, Discreet, Mature.
Our verdict on each
BDSM Singles
BDSM Singles gives adults a free way into a BDSM-focused dating pool, with a profile, photos, search and a daily flirt allowance before any payment. Billing is where the caution sits, since subscriptions renew automatically and cancellation runs through settings, and the service has been running since 2006.
POPpen.de
POPpen.de suits adults who want to browse, message and use the chat and forum before they pay, and it takes singles and couples, with Over 4 million members (2026 claim) behind it. Readers who want European data handling should weigh Data processed outside the EEA (Hong Kong) first.
Score breakdown
| Area | BDSM Singles | POPpen.de |
|---|---|---|
| Offer | 9.9 | 9.9 |
| Trust | 9.1 | 9.2Higher |
Where each is licensed and available
Available in 3 countries for both. Additional countries for BDSM Singles: 101.
How they place
| Ranking | BDSM Singles | POPpen.de |
|---|---|---|
| Hookup sites and apps | 126 of 478 | 135 of 478 |
| LGBTQ+ and trans dating | 19 of 90 | 24 of 90 |
| Fetish and BDSM dating | 11 of 47 | 14 of 47 |
| Free hookup sites | 92 of 358 | 101 of 358 |
Every fact side by side
| Fact | BDSM Singles | POPpen.de |
|---|---|---|
| Pricing model | Free | Free |
| Features | App, Verified profiles | App, Verified profiles |
| Legal entity | ODS Online Dating Systems LTD | Ideawise Limited |
| Headquarters | Cyprus | Hong Kong |
| Founded | 2006 | 2004Lower |
| Support channels | Email, Phone, Help centre, Community | Email, Phone, Help centre, Community |
Pros and cons
BDSM Singles
Pros
- The free tier covers a profile, photos, search and a daily flirt allowance (Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day), and free access is confirmed as the model in free.
- Verification runs on a phone number with an optional photo badge (Phone number and optional photo verification badge), against a verified profile share of 56.6% across listings.
- An app and verified profiles both appear in the feature list (app and verified profiles); an app is carried by 76.5% of listings.
Cons
- Subscriptions renew automatically and cancellation runs through settings (Auto-renew; cancel in settings, no refund), so a forgotten cancellation is billed again.
- Flirts are limited each day, and Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day sets out the ceiling that a paid plan lifts.
- The photo badge is optional beside the phone check (Phone number and optional photo verification badge), so a badge marks effort rather than a checked profile.
POPpen.de
Pros
- Profiles, messages, chat and forum are free is unusually broad for a site that sells paid tiers: a profile, messages, chat and the forum cost nothing, so the service can be judged before any spend.
- Free authenticity check for contact offers a free authenticity check on contact, so a profile can be checked before time goes into a conversation.
- email, phone and help centre covers email, phone, a help centre and the community, which is more than a single mailbox.
Cons
- Data processed outside the EEA (Hong Kong) puts account data outside the European Economic Area, which matters for readers who expect European handling.
- 14-day withdrawal; auto-renews to term end means a plan renews on its own to the end of its term, so a cancellation made late still pays out the remainder.
- Points buy extras, no cash payout means extras are bought with points and points are not paid out in cash, so spending on visibility runs in one direction only.
Who each suits
BDSM Singles
Who it suits
- Adults who want a free profile, photos and search before paying, as set out in Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day.
- Readers who will use the phone check or photo badge in Phone number and optional photo verification badge to judge a profile.
- People who plan to set a reminder for the settings cancellation route in Auto-renew; cancel in settings, no refund.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone after a free first message, since EroFantasie offers Registration free, first message free.
- People wanting a free community space, since BDSM-baari lists Forum use is free of charge.
- Readers who expect free contact: Senior.dk Dating lists Free signup and browsing; contact needs paid VIP, while search here sits inside Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day.
POPpen.de
Who it suits
- Adults who want messaging, chat and a forum with no subscription in the way.
- Singles and couples with a broad brief rather than a single interest, since casual, discreet and mature covers casual, discreet, mature, fetish, swinger and trans.
- Readers comfortable signing up with a Hong Kong operator and with Data processed outside the EEA (Hong Kong).
Who should look elsewhere
- Not for readers who want a free opening move before any subscription: on EroFantasie, Registration free, first message free covers registration and an opening message.
- Not for anyone who expects contact to come free: at Senior.dk Dating, Free signup and browsing; contact needs paid VIP puts contact on a paid VIP plan, a different trade.
- Not for readers who only want forum discussion: Forum use is free of charge makes forum use free of charge at BDSM-baari, with no matching side needed.
Current offers
BDSM Singles
Current offer
Bonus
Free membership to 24 partner kink sites on signup: Free membership
Ticked at registration; also accepts the partner sites' privacy policies
Source, checked September 26, 2026
Free trial
3 day trial re-billing to 30 day membership: 3 day trial
Must cancel before trial end or it re-bills to a 30 day membership
Source, checked September 26, 2026
Country by country
| Country | BDSM Singles | POPpen.de |
|---|---|---|
| Albania | Yes | No |
| Algeria | Yes | No |
| Andorra | Yes | No |
| Anguilla | Yes | No |
| Antigua and Barbuda | Yes | No |
| Argentina | Yes | No |
| Aruba | Yes | No |
| Australia | Yes | No |
8 of 104 countries where either is available.
Questions about each
BDSM Singles
What does BDSM Singles cost per month?+
Plan lengths are published as 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, trial: a monthly term, a longer quarterly term, a yearly term and a trial. The per month figure moves with the term chosen, and the free tier in Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day sets what you get before paying. For scale, the median starting monthly price across listings is €14.
What is free on BDSM Singles?+
A free profile, photos, search and a daily flirt allowance, listed as Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day, with free access confirmed as the model in free. Sending more each day than that allowance is what moves a member onto a plan, so the free tier is a real test of the audience.
POPpen.de
Which plans are there, and what do points buy?+
Free, Premium, VIP, Commercial sets out a free tier beside Premium, VIP and Commercial. Points buy extras, no cash payout explains the rest: extras are bought with points, which are not paid out in cash. Start on the free tier and treat point purchases as optional.
What is free without paying anything?+
Profiles, messages, chat and forum are free is broad for a service that also sells paid tiers: a profile, messages, chat and the forum are all covered. Browsing and messaging can be used before any payment decision, so any paid level sits on top of a working free service.
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