Updated September 28, 2026 · FlingCue Editorial Team
HePays vs SecretBenefits
Facts checked September 26, 2026.
Facts checked September 26, 2026.
Where HePays and SecretBenefits differ
| Compare |  HePays |  SecretBenefits |
|---|---|---|
| What is free | Free to join; messaging free if your minimum is 0 | Free signup; contact, photos, favorites need payment |
| Profile verification | Video-call identity check, optional gov ID upload | Member photos verified, best effort |
| Audience focus | Sugar daddy, findom and millionaire dating | Sugar daddies and sugar babies |
| Members | 500K+ members, 62% women | Millions of like-minded people |
| Credit system | Credits to message; earnings withdrawable | Credits purchased for paid features |
| Renewal and cancelling | Lifetime, no renewal; no refunds | Cancel any time via Account page or contact |
| Privacy and data | Data not shared; self-service deletion | No background checks; profiles not public |
| Categories | Sugar, FetishCovers more | Sugar |
| Plans | One-time lifetime, Bitcoin only | Not confirmed |
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Key differences
- Support channels: only HePays offers Email, Community.
- HePays is available in 19 more countries.
- Features: only HePays offers App.
- Categories: only HePays offers Fetish.
Our verdict on each
HePays
HePays suits adults who want a sugar, findom or millionaire dating pool and do not mind a credit balance instead of a monthly bill, since access is bought up front and not renewed.
SecretBenefits
SecretBenefits suits adults who want a narrow, sugar-only audience and are willing to pay credits for the steps that follow signup.
Where they rank in our lists
| Ranking | HePays | SecretBenefits |
|---|---|---|
| Hookup sites and apps | 364 of 478 | 431 of 478 |
| Sugar daddy and sugar dating sites | 9 of 21 | 14 of 21 |
| Free hookup sites | 288 of 358 | 327 of 358 |
Availability and regulation
Available in 3 countries for both. Additional countries for HePays: 20. Additional countries for SecretBenefits: 1.
Every fact side by side
| Fact | HePays | SecretBenefits |
|---|---|---|
| Pricing model | Free | Free |
| Features | App, Verified profilesCovers more | Verified profiles |
| Legal entity | PalmRise S.R.O. | Not confirmed |
| Headquarters | Czechia | Not confirmed |
| Support channels | Email, Help centre, CommunityCovers more | Help centre |
Pros and cons
HePays
Pros
- Access is One-time lifetime, Bitcoin only, so there is no renewal to track after the payment and no monthly bill to budget.
- Joining is Free to join; messaging free if your minimum is 0, which keeps the entry point low before any credits are bought or a plan chosen.
- Messaging runs on Credits to message; earnings withdrawable, so a message is tied to credits held rather than to a recurring fee.
Cons
- Payment is One-time lifetime, Bitcoin only, so a card on file from another country cannot be used, unlike EroFantasie, where Registration free, first message free.
- The price is not quoted monthly: access is One-time lifetime, Bitcoin only, so it cannot be set against a monthly figure like €14.
- The free part stops at the account, since Credits to message; earnings withdrawable puts every message behind credits while joining stays Free to join; messaging free if your minimum is 0.
SecretBenefits
Pros
- The audience is defined as Sugar daddies and sugar babies, so the pool is built around that arrangement type rather than a general mix.
- Verified profiles are listed as a feature (verified profiles), and 88.9% of the brands in the sugar dating ranking carry it too.
- The listed model is free, matching 100% of the brands in the same ranking, so a free account is a normal starting point here.
Cons
- The free tier ends at signup: contact, photos and favorites all need payment (Free signup; contact, photos, favorites need payment), so a free account does not reach messaging.
- Spending runs on credits purchased for paid features (Credits purchased for paid features), where EroFantasie includes a free first message (Registration free, first message free).
- Support runs on help centre only, which keeps most questions to self service material.
Who each suits
HePays
Who it suits
- Adults looking for a focused pool built around Sugar daddy, findom and millionaire dating, rather than a general membership mix at all.
- People who prefer buying access once, since the plan is One-time lifetime, Bitcoin only and nothing renews after the payment.
- Readers comfortable holding a balance for every message, because messaging follows Credits to message; earnings withdrawable rather than a monthly plan.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone who wants monthly billing can look at EroFantasie, where Registration free, first message free, since HePays access is One-time lifetime, Bitcoin only.
- Readers who want a free place to browse at length may prefer BDSM-baari, where Forum use is free of charge.
- People after a senior-focused pool can compare Senior.dk Dating, where Free signup and browsing; contact needs paid VIP, rather than Sugar daddy, findom and millionaire dating.
SecretBenefits
Who it suits
- Adults who want a defined sugar dating audience rather than a general pool (Sugar daddies and sugar babies).
- Members happy to register at no cost and buy credits only for the actions they choose (Free signup; contact, photos, favorites need payment, Credits purchased for paid features).
- Readers who want to leave on their own terms, since you can cancel any time via the Account page or contact (Cancel any time via Account page or contact).
Who should look elsewhere
- Adults who want a free opening message before paying: EroFantasie includes that (Registration free, first message free).
- Readers who want to browse at no cost: Senior.dk Dating offers free signup and browsing, with contact on paid VIP (Free signup and browsing; contact needs paid VIP).
- People who prefer a community space: BDSM-baari is free of charge for forum use (Forum use is free of charge).
Current offers
HePays
Current offer
Bonus
Free lifetime access via video verification: Free
Join Telegram @meetrichmen, video call identity check, 24-48h
Source, checked September 26, 2026
Country by country
| Country | HePays | SecretBenefits |
|---|---|---|
| Brazil | Yes | No |
| Colombia | Yes | No |
| Denmark | Yes | No |
| France | Yes | No |
| Germany | Yes | No |
| Ghana | Yes | No |
| India | Yes | No |
| Indonesia | Yes | No |
8 of 24 countries where either is available.
Questions about each
HePays
How much does HePays cost?+
Access is One-time lifetime, Bitcoin only, a single payment in Bitcoin with no renewal, so nothing recurs after the purchase. Because the price is not quoted monthly, it cannot be set against the site median of €14 without conversion. Message credits sit on top of access rather than inside it.
What is free on HePays?+
Joining and browsing are covered by Free to join; messaging free if your minimum is 0. Sending messages is a different matter, because Credits to message; earnings withdrawable places messaging behind credits. The free part covers the account rather than the conversation, which differs from EroFantasie at Registration free, first message free and from forum use at Forum use is free of charge.
SecretBenefits
How much does SecretBenefits cost?+
Signup is free, but contact, photos and favorites each need payment (Free signup; contact, photos, favorites need payment). Payment runs on credits purchased for paid features (Credits purchased for paid features), so spending follows use rather than a single listed fee. For scale, monthly starting prices across the listings sit at €14 in the middle, with €20.65 at the upper end.
What can I do at no cost?+
Registration is the free part. The listed model is free, and the terms confirm free signup, with contact, photos and favorites all needing payment (Free signup; contact, photos, favorites need payment). Compare that with EroFantasie, where registration is free and the opening message is free too (Registration free, first message free), or BDSM-baari, where forum use is free of charge (Forum use is free of charge).