Updated September 28, 2026 · FlingCue Editorial Team
BDSM Singles vs Killing Kittens
Where BDSM Singles and Killing Kittens differ
| Compare |  BDSM Singles |  Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Profile verification | Phone number and optional photo verification badge | Photo and ID required to apply |
| Audience focus | BDSM singles: subs, doms, switchers, couples | Women, trans and non-binary people, 21+ |
| Plans | 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, trial | Full (Kitten) or Guest membership, plus X-PLUS |
| Members | Hundreds of local members (2026-09-26) | Hundreds of thousands of members |
| Renewal and cancelling | Auto-renew; cancel in settings, no refund | Any time by email or deleting your account |
| Privacy and data | Data held in US and UK; never sold to third parties | Confidentiality and discretion are core values |
| Categories | Fetish, LGBTQ, Gay, Lesbian | Discreet, Fetish, Trans |
| What is free | Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day | Not confirmed |
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Key differences
- Support channels: only BDSM Singles offers Phone.
- Support channels: only Killing Kittens offers Chat.
- Founded is lower at Killing Kittens: 2005 vs 2006.
- BDSM Singles is available in 102 more countries.
- Features: only BDSM Singles offers Verified profiles.
- Categories: only BDSM Singles offers LGBTQ, Gay, Lesbian.
- Categories: only Killing Kittens offers Discreet, Trans.
Our verdict on each
BDSM Singles
BDSM Singles gives adults a free way into a BDSM-focused dating pool, with a profile, photos, search and a daily flirt allowance before any payment. Billing is where the caution sits, since subscriptions renew automatically and cancellation runs through settings, and the service has been running since 2006.
Killing Kittens
Killing Kittens suits adults who want a discreet, vetted membership with an easy exit. Applications require Photo and ID required to apply, the site reports Hundreds of thousands of members, and members use an app on Full (Kitten) or Guest tiers plus X-PLUS. Cancelling takes an email or a deleted account, at any time.
Score breakdown
| Area | BDSM Singles | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Offer | 9.9 | 9.9 |
| Trust | 9.1 | 9.2Higher |
Feature by feature
| Categories | BDSM Singles | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Discreet | No | Yes |
| LGBTQ | Yes | No |
| Fetish | Yes | Yes |
| Trans | No | Yes |
| Gay | Yes | No |
| Lesbian | Yes | No |
Where each is licensed and available
Available in 2 countries for both. Additional countries for BDSM Singles: 102.
Positions in our rankings
| Ranking | BDSM Singles | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| LGBTQ+ and trans dating | 19 of 90 | 21 of 90 |
| Fetish and BDSM dating | 11 of 47 | 13 of 47 |
Every fact side by side
| Fact | BDSM Singles | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Pricing model | Free | Not confirmed |
| Features | App, Verified profilesCovers more | App |
| Legal entity | ODS Online Dating Systems LTD | KK Events Ltd |
| Headquarters | Cyprus | United Kingdom |
| Founded | 2006 | 2005Lower |
| Support channels | Email, Phone, Help centre, Community | Email, Chat, Help centre, Community |
Pros and cons
BDSM Singles
Pros
- The free tier covers a profile, photos, search and a daily flirt allowance (Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day), and free access is confirmed as the model in free.
- Verification runs on a phone number with an optional photo badge (Phone number and optional photo verification badge), against a verified profile share of 56.6% across listings.
- An app and verified profiles both appear in the feature list (app and verified profiles); an app is carried by 76.5% of listings.
Cons
- Subscriptions renew automatically and cancellation runs through settings (Auto-renew; cancel in settings, no refund), so a forgotten cancellation is billed again.
- Flirts are limited each day, and Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day sets out the ceiling that a paid plan lifts.
- The photo badge is optional beside the phone check (Phone number and optional photo verification badge), so a badge marks effort rather than a checked profile.
Killing Kittens
Pros
- Every applicant is screened: Photo and ID required to apply.
- Cancelling is easy, at any time by email or by deleting your account.
- Discretion is a stated core value, and the service covers discreet, fetish and trans interests.
Cons
- Entry is gated, since Photo and ID required to apply is required before an account goes live.
- The audience is Women, trans and non-binary people, 21+, so anyone outside those groups meets a smaller pool.
- Support runs on email, chat and help centre only, with no phone line in the list.
Who each suits
BDSM Singles
Who it suits
- Adults who want a free profile, photos and search before paying, as set out in Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day.
- Readers who will use the phone check or photo badge in Phone number and optional photo verification badge to judge a profile.
- People who plan to set a reminder for the settings cancellation route in Auto-renew; cancel in settings, no refund.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone after a free first message, since EroFantasie offers Registration free, first message free.
- People wanting a free community space, since BDSM-baari lists Forum use is free of charge.
- Readers who expect free contact: Senior.dk Dating lists Free signup and browsing; contact needs paid VIP, while search here sits inside Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day.
Killing Kittens
Who it suits
- Adults who want a discreet, trans and non-binary friendly membership, since the audience is Women, trans and non-binary people, 21+.
- People comfortable sending a photo and ID before they can use the service, because Photo and ID required to apply.
- Members who would rather get help in writing, since support runs on email, chat and help centre.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone after a mature singles market: Senior.dk Dating is built for Singles 50+ in Denmark.
- Readers who want hand-checked profiles and messages, which is how EroFantasie treats Photos and texts manually checked.
- People wanting an age gate and a contractual confirmation before joining, which PUH.lv applies through 18+ age gate and contractual 18+ confirmation.
Current offers
BDSM Singles
Current offer
Bonus
Free membership to 24 partner kink sites on signup: Free membership
Ticked at registration; also accepts the partner sites' privacy policies
Source, checked September 26, 2026
Free trial
3 day trial re-billing to 30 day membership: 3 day trial
Must cancel before trial end or it re-bills to a 30 day membership
Source, checked September 26, 2026
Country by country
| Country | BDSM Singles | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Albania | Yes | No |
| Algeria | Yes | No |
| Andorra | Yes | No |
| Anguilla | Yes | No |
| Antigua and Barbuda | Yes | No |
| Argentina | Yes | No |
| Aruba | Yes | No |
| Australia | Yes | No |
8 of 104 countries where either is available.
Questions about each
BDSM Singles
What does BDSM Singles cost per month?+
Plan lengths are published as 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, trial: a monthly term, a longer quarterly term, a yearly term and a trial. The per month figure moves with the term chosen, and the free tier in Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day sets what you get before paying. For scale, the median starting monthly price across listings is €14.
What is free on BDSM Singles?+
A free profile, photos, search and a daily flirt allowance, listed as Free profile, photos, search, 10 flirts/day, with free access confirmed as the model in free. Sending more each day than that allowance is what moves a member onto a plan, so the free tier is a real test of the audience.
Killing Kittens
What plans does Killing Kittens sell?+
Killing Kittens sets its offer as membership tiers: Full (Kitten) or Guest membership, plus X-PLUS. Full (Kitten) is the full tier and Guest is the lighter entry, with X-PLUS as the add on. Access runs through an app, so the tiers sit on one account rather than across separate services.
Do I need to verify before I can use it?+
Yes, Photo and ID required to apply is the entry condition. An application needs a photo and ID before the account goes live, so screening happens at the door rather than after a complaint. It also narrows who you can browse alongside you, since only approved applicants get in.