Updated September 28, 2026 · FlingCue Editorial Team
Fetisch.de vs Killing Kittens
Where Fetisch.de and Killing Kittens differ
| Compare |  Fetisch.de |  Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Profile verification | Free authenticity check (#SSC) with green tick | Photo and ID required to apply |
| Audience focus | Adults 18+; BDSM and fetish community | Women, trans and non-binary people, 21+ |
| Plans | Free, Premium, VIP, Dominatrix | Full (Kitten) or Guest membership, plus X-PLUS |
| Members | Many hundreds of thousands of members | Hundreds of thousands of members |
| Renewal and cancelling | Auto-renews; 14-day withdrawal; cancel to term end | Any time by email or deleting your account |
| Privacy and data | Data processing incl. outside EEA with consent | Confidentiality and discretion are core values |
| Categories | Fetish, Casual, Swinger, Trans, LGBTQ | Discreet, Fetish, Trans |
| What is free | Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum | Not confirmed |
| Credit system | Points system, no cash payout of credits | Not confirmed |
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Key differences
- Fetisch.de scores higher overall: 9.7 vs 9.6.
- Support channels: only Fetisch.de offers Phone.
- Founded is lower at Fetisch.de: 2004 vs 2005.
- Fetisch.de is available in 5 more countries.
- Features: only Fetisch.de offers Verified profiles.
- Categories: only Fetisch.de offers Casual, Swinger, LGBTQ.
- Categories: only Killing Kittens offers Discreet.
Our verdict on each
Fetisch.de
Fetisch.de fits adults who want a BDSM and fetish community with real depth and a long track record.
Killing Kittens
Killing Kittens suits adults who want a discreet, vetted membership with an easy exit. Applications require Photo and ID required to apply, the site reports Hundreds of thousands of members, and members use an app on Full (Kitten) or Guest tiers plus X-PLUS. Cancelling takes an email or a deleted account, at any time.
Score breakdown
| Area | Fetisch.de | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Offer | 10.0Higher | 9.9 |
| Trust | 9.2 | 9.2 |
Where they rank in our lists
| Ranking | Fetisch.de | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| LGBTQ+ and trans dating | 18 of 90 | 21 of 90 |
| Fetish and BDSM dating | 10 of 47 | 13 of 47 |
| Trans dating sites | 14 of 50 | 16 of 50 |
Every fact side by side
| Fact | Fetisch.de | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Pricing model | Free | Not confirmed |
| Features | App, Verified profilesCovers more | App |
| Legal entity | Ideawise Limited | KK Events Ltd |
| Headquarters | Hong Kong | United Kingdom |
| Founded | 2004Lower | 2005 |
| Support channels | Email, Chat, Phone, Help centre, CommunityCovers more | Email, Chat, Help centre, Community |
Pros and cons
Fetisch.de
Pros
- Membership stands at Many hundreds of thousands of members, and the service has run since 2004.
- Nothing has to be spent for the basics: the model is free, and Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum sit outside the paid plans, where Senior.dk Dating needs a paid VIP to make contact.
- The feature set covers app and verified profiles, and profile verification is Free authenticity check (#SSC) with green tick.
Cons
- Paid tiers are layered: Free, Premium, VIP, Dominatrix sit on top of free, so a reader who wants extras moves past the basics quickly.
- Billing is easy to leave running: Auto-renews; 14-day withdrawal; cancel to term end.
- Credits are not money back: Points system, no cash payout of credits.
Killing Kittens
Pros
- Every applicant is screened: Photo and ID required to apply.
- Cancelling is easy, at any time by email or by deleting your account.
- Discretion is a stated core value, and the service covers discreet, fetish and trans interests.
Cons
- Entry is gated, since Photo and ID required to apply is required before an account goes live.
- The audience is Women, trans and non-binary people, 21+, so anyone outside those groups meets a smaller pool.
- Support runs on email, chat and help centre only, with no phone line in the list.
Who each suits
Fetisch.de
Who it suits
- Adults who want a BDSM and fetish community rather than general dating: Adults 18+; BDSM and fetish community.
- Readers who want the core of the site reachable without a paid tier, Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum.
- People who want an authenticity check on profiles as a normal part of the service, Free authenticity check (#SSC) with green tick.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone who expects contact to be the paid part: Senior.dk Dating requires a paid VIP to get in touch, and here messages sit in Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum.
- Readers who only want discussion threads: BDSM-baari keeps Forum use is free of charge, which suits a forum user rather than a profile browser.
- Anyone who wants to test a single approach elsewhere first: EroFantasie offers Registration free, first message free, so one opening line costs nothing over there.
Killing Kittens
Who it suits
- Adults who want a discreet, trans and non-binary friendly membership, since the audience is Women, trans and non-binary people, 21+.
- People comfortable sending a photo and ID before they can use the service, because Photo and ID required to apply.
- Members who would rather get help in writing, since support runs on email, chat and help centre.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone after a mature singles market: Senior.dk Dating is built for Singles 50+ in Denmark.
- Readers who want hand-checked profiles and messages, which is how EroFantasie treats Photos and texts manually checked.
- People wanting an age gate and a contractual confirmation before joining, which PUH.lv applies through 18+ age gate and contractual 18+ confirmation.
Country by country
| Country | Fetisch.de | Killing Kittens |
|---|---|---|
| Austria | Yes | No |
| Canada | Yes | No |
| Germany | Yes | No |
| Ireland | Yes | No |
| Switzerland | Yes | No |
| United Kingdom | Yes | Yes |
| United States | Yes | Yes |
Questions about each
Fetisch.de
How much does Fetisch.de cost, and what is included at no charge?+
The pricing model is free, and the plan list is Free, Premium, VIP, Dominatrix. The core of the site, Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum, is available without a paid tier, so nothing has to be spent to have a profile, browse or write a message. Paid options add extras on top of that base rather than unlocking basic contact.
How does billing work, and can I get a refund?+
Terms are Auto-renews; 14-day withdrawal; cancel to term end. That means a paid plan renews on its own, there is a withdrawal period after signing up, and a cancellation takes effect at the end of the term rather than immediately. Readers who want to stop should decide before a renewal rather than after one.
Killing Kittens
What plans does Killing Kittens sell?+
Killing Kittens sets its offer as membership tiers: Full (Kitten) or Guest membership, plus X-PLUS. Full (Kitten) is the full tier and Guest is the lighter entry, with X-PLUS as the add on. Access runs through an app, so the tiers sit on one account rather than across separate services.
Do I need to verify before I can use it?+
Yes, Photo and ID required to apply is the entry condition. An application needs a photo and ID before the account goes live, so screening happens at the door rather than after a complaint. It also narrows who you can browse alongside you, since only approved applicants get in.
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