Updated September 28, 2026 · FlingCue Editorial Team
Fetisch.de vs SexyLib
Where Fetisch.de and SexyLib differ
| Compare |  Fetisch.de | SexyLib ReviewVisitVisit |
|---|---|---|
| What is free | Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum | Free for women and couples; free messaging |
| Profile verification | Free authenticity check (#SSC) with green tick | Optional profile certification with badge |
| Audience focus | Adults 18+; BDSM and fetish community | Singles and couples seeking swinging encounters |
| Plans | Free, Premium, VIP, Dominatrix | Monthly premium from 4.99 EUR |
| Members | Many hundreds of thousands of members | 100K+ registered members (2026) |
| Privacy and data | Data processing incl. outside EEA with consent | No personal data collected, hosted in France |
| Categories | Fetish, Casual, Swinger, Trans, LGBTQ | Swinger, Casual, Discreet |
| Monthly price from | Not confirmed | €4.99 |
| Credit system | Points system, no cash payout of credits | Not confirmed |
| Renewal and cancelling | Auto-renews; 14-day withdrawal; cancel to term end | Not confirmed |
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Key differences
- Fetisch.de scores higher overall: 9.7 vs 9.0.
- Support channels: only Fetisch.de offers Email, Chat, Phone.
- Fetisch.de is available in 6 more countries.
- Categories: only Fetisch.de offers Fetish, Trans, LGBTQ.
- Categories: only SexyLib offers Discreet.
Our verdict on each
Fetisch.de
Fetisch.de fits adults who want a BDSM and fetish community with real depth and a long track record.
SexyLib
SexyLib suits adults who want a swinging focus with a free entry point for women and couples, and it is one of the cheaper premium options in that category. It scores 8.1 overall, with premium starting at €4.99 and messaging free.
Score breakdown
| Area | Fetisch.de | SexyLib |
|---|---|---|
| Cost | Not confirmed | 9.6Premium starts at €4.99, under the site median of €14 and the swinger median of €12.95. |
| Offer | 10.0Higher | 8.2 |
| Trust | 9.2 | Not confirmed |
Feature by feature
| Categories | Fetisch.de | SexyLib |
|---|---|---|
| Casual | Yes | Yes |
| Discreet | No | Yes |
| LGBTQ | Yes | No |
| Fetish | Yes | No |
| Swinger | Yes | Yes |
| Trans | Yes | No |
Where they rank in our lists
| Ranking | Fetisch.de | SexyLib |
|---|---|---|
| Hookup sites and apps | 122 of 478 | 103 of 478 |
| Swinger and couples sites | 6 of 52 | 3 of 52 |
| Free hookup sites | 88 of 358 | 78 of 358 |
Where each is licensed and available
Additional countries for Fetisch.de: 7. Additional countries for SexyLib: 1.
Every fact side by side
| Fact | Fetisch.de | SexyLib |
|---|---|---|
| Pricing model | Free | Free |
| Features | App, Verified profiles | App, Verified profiles |
| Legal entity | Ideawise Limited | Not confirmed |
| Headquarters | Hong Kong | France |
| Founded | 2004 | Not confirmed |
| Support channels | Email, Chat, Phone, Help centre, CommunityCovers more | Community |
Where each stands against the rest
| Fact | Fetisch.de | SexyLib | Median |
|---|---|---|---|
| Monthly price from | Not confirmed | €4.99below the median | €14 |
Median across 31 listed casual dating sites.
Pros and cons
Fetisch.de
Pros
- Membership stands at Many hundreds of thousands of members, and the service has run since 2004.
- Nothing has to be spent for the basics: the model is free, and Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum sit outside the paid plans, where Senior.dk Dating needs a paid VIP to make contact.
- The feature set covers app and verified profiles, and profile verification is Free authenticity check (#SSC) with green tick.
Cons
- Paid tiers are layered: Free, Premium, VIP, Dominatrix sit on top of free, so a reader who wants extras moves past the basics quickly.
- Billing is easy to leave running: Auto-renews; 14-day withdrawal; cancel to term end.
- Credits are not money back: Points system, no cash payout of credits.
SexyLib
Pros
- Women and couples get access at no cost and everyone gets free messaging (Free for women and couples; free messaging).
- Premium starts at €4.99, under the swinger category median of €12.95.
- A clear swinging focus in Singles and couples seeking swinging encounters, with discreet and casual niches listed.
Cons
- Profile certification is optional, so a badge appears on some profiles only.
- Support runs on community only, with no direct contact channel listed.
- Premium is the same single starting figure, with no cheaper trial tier listed alongside Monthly premium from 4.99 EUR.
Who each suits
Fetisch.de
Who it suits
- Adults who want a BDSM and fetish community rather than general dating: Adults 18+; BDSM and fetish community.
- Readers who want the core of the site reachable without a paid tier, Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum.
- People who want an authenticity check on profiles as a normal part of the service, Free authenticity check (#SSC) with green tick.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone who expects contact to be the paid part: Senior.dk Dating requires a paid VIP to get in touch, and here messages sit in Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum.
- Readers who only want discussion threads: BDSM-baari keeps Forum use is free of charge, which suits a forum user rather than a profile browser.
- Anyone who wants to test a single approach elsewhere first: EroFantasie offers Registration free, first message free, so one opening line costs nothing over there.
SexyLib
Who it suits
- Women and couples who can browse and message at no cost.
- Adults who want a swinging and discreet audience rather than a general dating pool.
- Readers who want app access and a clear niche without paying a mid-range premium.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone wanting mandatory profile checks, since certification is left optional.
- Readers who want email or phone support rather than community.
- Fans of BDSM scenes, for whom BDSM-baari is a closer niche match.
Country by country
| Country | Fetisch.de | SexyLib |
|---|---|---|
| Austria | Yes | No |
| Canada | Yes | No |
| France | No | Yes |
| Germany | Yes | No |
| Ireland | Yes | No |
| Switzerland | Yes | No |
| United Kingdom | Yes | No |
| United States | Yes | No |
Questions about each
Fetisch.de
How much does Fetisch.de cost, and what is included at no charge?+
The pricing model is free, and the plan list is Free, Premium, VIP, Dominatrix. The core of the site, Free registration, profiles, messages, chat, forum, is available without a paid tier, so nothing has to be spent to have a profile, browse or write a message. Paid options add extras on top of that base rather than unlocking basic contact.
How does billing work, and can I get a refund?+
Terms are Auto-renews; 14-day withdrawal; cancel to term end. That means a paid plan renews on its own, there is a withdrawal period after signing up, and a cancellation takes effect at the end of the term rather than immediately. Readers who want to stop should decide before a renewal rather than after one.
SexyLib
How much does SexyLib cost per month?+
Premium starts at €4.99 on a monthly basis, and Monthly premium from 4.99 EUR is the only plan structure listed. That sits below the swinger category median of €12.95, so the paid tier is entry level for that market. No annual or bundle price appears alongside the monthly figure.
What can I use without paying?+
Access is free for women and couples, and messaging stays free on the free tier, per Free for women and couples; free messaging. That means a man browsing can send messages at no cost, while women and couples have the whole site without a subscription. Only the premium features sit behind the monthly payment.
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